So its been a very long time since I did any blogging. I believe it was sometime in 2010 to be exact. We had lost our daughter Nevaeh who was a 14 month old toddler to a severe heart defect. After she had died I decided to do a weekly blog post of the journey we were walking through after having to bury a child. It is more than a journey of grief. It is a journey of questions that for the most part have no answers. Its a journey of learning who you are and what you believe when you are going through pretty much the worst thing as a parent you can go through. About two years after she died I remember crying and asking God where were you ? The answer I received blew me away.
I am not one who claims to hear Gods voice audibly but almost immediately I heard him say “I was right there with you” and immediately had a vision of Jesus standing behind me with his hands on my shoulders weeping as I held my daughter in our local hospital after she had died. Immediately after that I saw him standing over us weeping as we walked into the room at the funeral home and saw her in the casket for the first time and then after that as we sat at the cemetery at her funeral. It was the first time that I really got a glimpse of the Fathers heart in a real life way. Just as we hate as Dads to see our kids in pain, he weeps with us in ours.
Fast forward almost 10 years. A bit about me. My name is Matt Wallace. I am 43 years old and have been married 20 years to my incredible wife and have 4 children at home and one in Heaven. The week my daughter died was my first week in business taking over my dads concrete business so I have been self employed for 10 years. I was born and raised and currently reside in the Madison, WI area. As you will undoubtedly see in my blogs I am not a grammar expert so you will have to excuse my grammatical errors!
Chances are if you are reading this you have heard Garth on the Podcast or in a video. Over the past few years it has become very clear to me that guys are struggling big time, especially in the 30s to 50s. I have seen so many people that I know or have been acquainted with struggle mightily and unfortunately some have decided taking their lives was the best option. Last February after one call to Garth, the wheels of what would eventually be The David Alliance were beginning to roll. What is the point of The David Alliance you may ask??? Think of Braveheart…… FREEDOM!!!!! Guys are lonely and unfortunately that leads to all sorts of things. If somehow we can help connect and bring hope to guys who are hurting that is a huge victory as it will also have an effect on their families as well.
I wear a bracelet that says ” I Slay Giants” on it as a constant reminder that no matter what life is throwing at me ( and right now it giving a bit of a beat down lol) I can overcome. …and so can you. What is the GIANT in your live that you need to kill? Anger, Porn, Substance abuse, Food addiction……. you know what it is and the list could go on forever. Consider this your invitation to quit being told what to do by the circumstances of life and no matter what giant you face know that you are not battling it alone! This site is set up where you can join for free and if you want can start something in your area( the map on the home page) to meet with other guys who are probably dealing with the same issues. If your New Years resolution involves overcoming anything, having someone to be accountable with is HUGE!
So from all of us at The David Alliance we are very excited you are here and will help however we can!